Sometimes even your best is not good enough

sometimes even your best is not good enough

Sometimes, despite giving our absolute best effort, we may come up short of our desired outcome. It is a bitter pill to swallow when we realize that even our best is not good enough. Whether it is in academics, work, relationships, or personal goals, facing this realization can be disheartening and demotivating. However, it is crucial to recognize that on these occasions, it is not a reflection of our worth or abilities, but rather a valuable lesson in resilience and growth.

One of the most significant contributors to this scenario is our tendency to set unrealistic expectations for ourselves. Society often glorifies the idea of perfection, leading us to believe that we should effortlessly achieve greatness in all aspects of life. However, it is important to understand that perfection is an unattainable standard. It is through trying and falling short that we learn, improve, and ultimately grow.

It is in these instances of not being good enough that we must remember that failure is not the opposite of success but rather a stepping stone towards it. Many great achievements in history, innovation, and art were born out of multiple failures and setbacks. The difference lies in how we perceive and respond to these experiences. Rather than viewing them as personal failures, we should re=frame them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.

Moreover, it is crucial to recognize and appreciate the effort we put forth. Sometimes, despite our best intentions and hard work, external factors beyond our control can influence the outcome. Recognizing our limitations and accepting that there will be times when our best may not be good enough is essential for maintaining a healthy self-image and avoiding burnout.

In addition to external factors, internal challenges such as self-doubt, fear, or lack of confidence can hinder our performance. Negative self-talk and comparisons to others often heighten these feelings. It is important to remind ourselves that every individual has their own journey, and what may seem effortless for someone else may require more effort from us. Embracing our uniqueness and focusing on our own growth rather than comparing ourselves to others can help reduce these pressures.

Nevertheless, it is equally important to distinguish between genuine effort and falling into a pattern of mediocrity or self-satisfaction. While one should not be disheartened if their best efforts do not yield the desired outcome, consistently giving less than our best does not allow for growth or progress. It is crucial to evaluate our approach, identify areas for improvement, and be open to adapting strategies accordingly.

Ultimately, facing the harsh reality that even our best is sometimes not enough is an opportunity for self-reflection and self-improvement. It teaches us resilience, adaptability, and the importance of perseverance in the face of adversity. It encourages us to reevaluate our approach, set realistic expectations, and recognize our limitations while appreciating the effort we invest. Remember, success is not solely measured by the outcome but is also defined by the lessons learned along the way.

How failures shape your life

What it mean to be the best version of oneself

what is mean to be the best version of oneself

Everyone want to become the best version of themselves but what it mean to be the best version of oneself. Does it mean that you become the perfect human being who can do nothing wrong or you display only those emotions that presents you in a good light and suppress the emotions that you think will make you look weak or not likeable.

When someone is going through a hard day or rough week it is natural to feel sad. Sometimes people are not able to handle the stress and they breakdown. If the feelings are too overwhelming that breakdown can happen in front of other people too. A person having these feelings and breaking down thinks that this is not right and that he/she needs to become a better version of himself/herself. But does that person really need to feel bad about having those emotions.

Everyone goes through some hard times in their life. These times are part of our journey. It shapes our character and make us the person we are meant to be. People think that having emotions like anger, stress or not being in a good mood without any reason, are our weaknesses and we need to become better. Although it is true that we should be able to overcome such emotions but that does not mean we need to totally discard our emotions and somehow become more better version.

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It is okay to feel angry or sad because these feelings are part of us too and it is also okay to show these emotions. We cannot just suppress them in order to become a “best version of ourselves”. Suppressing our feelings can do more harm than good. You shouldn’t feel sorry about yourself for displaying your emotions. Every feeling you have is part of you and your life. If you try to showcase selective emotions or feelings then you will do wrong to yourself.

Every emotion and experience is going to make you a person which you think is the best version of yourself. You cannot choose to not have certain emotions and think that you have become a better person. The life gives you experiences which are necessary for you to become a person that you are destined to be.

How your thoughts make your reality

This is best for you…know why?

this is best for you...know why

Whatever we do in our personal or professional life we do what we know or think is best for us. Sometimes things go as we had planned them and sometimes they don’t. Even when they don’t go as planned we try to find the silver lining or make efforts to change the situation but sometimes no matter how hard you try you don’t get the desired result. Such moments made you think that because you didn’t get what you wanted so this outcome is not best for you.

There often comes a time in everyone’s life when things seem to be beyond one’s control. You try every possible way to make things go certain way but still the end result is not what you may have wanted. When such a thing happen at a minor scale we just accept it and doesn’t put too much thought in it but when some big event doesn’t occur according to our plan or some unpleasant situation arrives we tend to go in the state of sadness.

We start thinking about the what ifs. What if it had ended differently or what if it didn’t happen at all. Our mind goes into the shock state where its not able to process the situation efficiently. We either start blaming the situation, other people or ourselves. The pain of not getting what you wanted or being in a unwanted situation can become unbearable. It feels like the universe is conspiring against you but its also possible that maybe this is what’s best for you.

Often times we get lost in the circumstances or are unable to understand the things in grand scheme of events. You may have experienced yourself that sometimes as the time passes you thank god about how the things have turned out or haven’t turned out because now you are in much better position than you’d have imagined. Its very common thing to blame someone else or yourself for something not turning out the way you wanted. Sometimes it just doesn’t meant to be your way. It has to be the way it happened or is going to happen.

At times when things are beyond your control you should just accept it and believe that this is what’s best for you. Its not happening according to your plan but according to universe’s plan. It may not prove to the best for you during the moment. You will realize it later that whatever has happened has happened for the best.

Its hard to bear the reality of something unwanted happening or not happening the way you desired. Its even harder to accept it as it is and to move on without any regret and grudges. When you lead your life with the hope of finding good you find it. Look beyond regret, anger, envy & grief and embrace hope, kindness and forgiveness. What you seek is seeking you, so believe in the best and you’ll get what’s best for you.

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